One life, endless relations!
(The teenage relation)
(Part I)
In a 'relationship', a new feed pops up on your Facebook home page. What would be the reaction? Who has posted, who is related, or how should you respond? The first few thoughts strike your mind and the story ends here. Go back and think again, what would have happened? How did your friend ended up in a relationship? What does that mean for him, for you? Go back a bit further and think again, what is a Relationship? That is where the story gets a full stop.
Did you ever thought what a relation would practically mean, keeping aside the dictionary or the literal meaning. Now go through the thinking process again and start coming back from where it started from.
The first step, what if someone asks you to define a relation, what would be your answer? A relation is a connection or a bond between you and someone else, that is all. This might be appropriate for an answer but never satisfying.
It is not a connection, its a mixed set of feelings, combine expectations, emotions, actions and reactions and attraction, you get it all!
Its an attachment that counts for everything in your life. Look around, your parents, brothers, sisters, friends and spouse, they are all relations. They have an effect and influence on your life in one way or another, eternal or temporary.
There is one thing that brings me back to the topic , a relation that does not hold a recognition, stuck between your personal and professional life, having probably the most effect on your life.
The 'Informal relation' or a 'relationship' that us, most of the teenagers know.
Let everything aside, did it ever hit your mind that how did you get in? what were the feelings and what is the situation with the time passing?
No matter how it started, or how it is going, if i ask you to define it in one word, can you? A large percentage cant, not to blame anybody, that is a task made impossible, because there is much more on stake, where the problem stands is that not many of you know how to define or express your true feelings, if there are any.
Frankly speaking, most of the conversations in our modern relationships start with 'Hey, i love you' and end up with a 'kiss'. There is actually much more than these couple of words.
Let me explain the benefits of a teenage relationship. You get attention, you get to share your happiness and sorrow that you cant with anyone else, your feelings ignite, your heart stumbles at everything, your world is new and fresh with every morning, infact you are having the time of your life.
Apart from all these truths, if you really enjoy them at all, everything else is just like you have your world a fake fantasy, for i swear that is true!
Not to discuss the fake relationships, i recall a true relationship. How much have you sacrificed, the tears, the feelings, the anger or the emotions? How much did you compromise? How far can you go, and the most important, whats on stake from both the sides?
Teenage is a passionate part of your life, and the boiling fresh blood can do the impossible. Are you wasting your time and energy or have you made the right choice?
The selection of your choice is directly linked with your dependency on the values that you hold, and the worth that it has. Since the start how much have you compromised, on your desires and the choices? How many times did you kill yourself trying to refrain from doing something that is not acceptable for your 'special one'? In a normal relation you go through a depressing stage that comes back to haunt you over and over again.
Do you have the required capacity to tolerate it all? During the hardest of times you might have screamed, tried to burn down your feelings, showed your anger and frustrations, the lava inside you might have exploded, but the question is, what for? Does the other 'special person' deserves this, are you getting something in return?
The fact is that even after all that, you must have gone back, the other person might have done the same, but the point is how far can you go? How far can you drag a relation?
To this one, the answer is 'long term compatibility' and sincerity, if you have these tools and if you are relying on them, giving some respect, you have made the right choice certainly!
TO BE CONTINUED!
